Hey! It has been a week. Anyway, back to the main point.

You have secrets, I have secrets. Everyone has it. Well, at least things that people don't know about you and me.

But should you ask about them and probe it? You shouldn't. That's the whole point of today's topic - Some things are better left unknown. But why should you curb your curiosity?

Firstly, if you don't know about too many things, one can pretend that nothing had happened, and in the case of friendships or relationship, at least it won't deteriorate. Let's say there are three friends, a, b and c. They used to be quite good friends and the relationship is cordial. But over time, a gets fed up with b, and decides to tell that he doesn't like b and that c should be wary of b. Should c tell b? In my opinion, c shouldn't. As said, some things should be left unknown. If c decides to tell b, b will know about the dark truth about what a thinks of him. There can be two consequences, either b changes for the better, or, begin to hate a for being a back-stabber, telling "lies" about him to c.

If c never told b what ever had happened, things might have been much better. At least, b and a could have remain as friends, although not as close as before. Therefore, as the title suggests, some things should be left unknown. It will be better for both parties. They can still be "good" friends.

Let's change the story around. c doesn't tells b. But b sees a and c together, talking. Later, when a leaves, c asks b whether he heard anything about what they said. By normal inference skills, b should be able to infer that the topic of the conversation was has something in relation to him. Doesn't it? If I was b, I don't think I would go and probe about what they were talking about, no matter how curious am I about the subject. This is because, there are some things I shouldn't know.

If b know about what the conversation was about, what would he think? Ponder about it.

Secondly, people need some personal space, privacy. (This was suppose to be the main topic, but I couldn't elaborate on it, so I merged with this topic)
If you get too close to somebody, the person will feel uncomfortable, and I am talking about physical contact. What more, if it is in "mental" sense. For example, if somebody "hounds" after you everyday, asking you how would you go home. What would you feel? For me, I would feel irritated, and will be pissed off by that person. People would feel irritated, because it's human instinct to "protect" oneself through having a personal space.

This personal space would result in one keeping some stuff in the heart, and not revealing everything. So, respect one's personal space, by not probing too much about stuff of a particular person. Because, it would be uncomfortable to the person if you are asking too much. For example, this person has something close to the heart, and another person come to know something about it. He asks him, and the person doesn't want to disclose anything. If I were him, I wouldn't probe further, because some things should be kept unknown.

If the person doesn't feel comfortable, there is no need to probe further, because there would be no awkwardness, as compared to if the person revealed. Awkwardness would come about, maybe because they come across the situation at which that person revealed. (Sounds complicated. I find it quite far-fetched too.)

Therefore, there is no need to know everything, keep some things unknown. This can spice up friendships too! hahaha

Signing off,
Namefulless

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