Hey! It has been a week. Anyway, back to the main point.

You have secrets, I have secrets. Everyone has it. Well, at least things that people don't know about you and me.

But should you ask about them and probe it? You shouldn't. That's the whole point of today's topic - Some things are better left unknown. But why should you curb your curiosity?

Firstly, if you don't know about too many things, one can pretend that nothing had happened, and in the case of friendships or relationship, at least it won't deteriorate. Let's say there are three friends, a, b and c. They used to be quite good friends and the relationship is cordial. But over time, a gets fed up with b, and decides to tell that he doesn't like b and that c should be wary of b. Should c tell b? In my opinion, c shouldn't. As said, some things should be left unknown. If c decides to tell b, b will know about the dark truth about what a thinks of him. There can be two consequences, either b changes for the better, or, begin to hate a for being a back-stabber, telling "lies" about him to c.

If c never told b what ever had happened, things might have been much better. At least, b and a could have remain as friends, although not as close as before. Therefore, as the title suggests, some things should be left unknown. It will be better for both parties. They can still be "good" friends.

Let's change the story around. c doesn't tells b. But b sees a and c together, talking. Later, when a leaves, c asks b whether he heard anything about what they said. By normal inference skills, b should be able to infer that the topic of the conversation was has something in relation to him. Doesn't it? If I was b, I don't think I would go and probe about what they were talking about, no matter how curious am I about the subject. This is because, there are some things I shouldn't know.

If b know about what the conversation was about, what would he think? Ponder about it.

Secondly, people need some personal space, privacy. (This was suppose to be the main topic, but I couldn't elaborate on it, so I merged with this topic)
If you get too close to somebody, the person will feel uncomfortable, and I am talking about physical contact. What more, if it is in "mental" sense. For example, if somebody "hounds" after you everyday, asking you how would you go home. What would you feel? For me, I would feel irritated, and will be pissed off by that person. People would feel irritated, because it's human instinct to "protect" oneself through having a personal space.

This personal space would result in one keeping some stuff in the heart, and not revealing everything. So, respect one's personal space, by not probing too much about stuff of a particular person. Because, it would be uncomfortable to the person if you are asking too much. For example, this person has something close to the heart, and another person come to know something about it. He asks him, and the person doesn't want to disclose anything. If I were him, I wouldn't probe further, because some things should be kept unknown.

If the person doesn't feel comfortable, there is no need to probe further, because there would be no awkwardness, as compared to if the person revealed. Awkwardness would come about, maybe because they come across the situation at which that person revealed. (Sounds complicated. I find it quite far-fetched too.)

Therefore, there is no need to know everything, keep some things unknown. This can spice up friendships too! hahaha

Signing off,
Namefulless

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Fret not, I'm not going to write about the historical Cold War. But before I get into the real topic, let me briefly get over with it.

The Cold War was the continuing state of political conflict, military tension, and economic competition existing after World War II, between the USSR and its satellite nations, and the powers of the Western world, primarily the United States. Although the primary participants' military forces never officially clashed directly, they expressed the conflict through military coalitions, strategic conventional force deployments, a nuclear arms race, espionage, proxy wars, propaganda, and technological competition, e.g. the space race.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cold_War

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According to Urban Dictionary, it is "any protracted sullen standoff between people". In other words, that means that a person ignores another, not communicating to each other, or have any liaison. This happens most of time time, when people get into an argument without any conclusion.

For example, person A argues with person B. They argue until there is nothing left to say. With "argh", they walk off. The thing is that, the course of the argument is still not solved. So when both of them meet each other again, the anger is still there, and they ignore each other.

There can be two consequences as a result of this Cold War.

Firstly, the relationship between the two people can get better, in the long run. When people get into Cold War, the period of ignoring each other allows both parties to cool down, and reflect. Maybe one will realise that he or she is in the wrong, and the anger will then disappear.... When both parties cool down, they can get together along again, and the friendship will get better.

For example, after a period of Cold War, both friends have long cooled down, and by chance or fate, they got together for group work or something like that. Due to that period of standoff, they have forgotten about their argument and all the unhappiness. During the course of group work, their friendship would be renewed, like getting to know a new friend all over again. They would realise a lot of good things among themselves. In time to come, their friendship would get even better than , as there is no unhappiness between both parties. And that's why, a Cold War between two people can result in a better relationship.

But on the other hand, a Cold War might cause the relationship between two people to deteriorate. This might result in two people who were close friends, to become to people with no friendship to talk about. This can be due to both parties who are not willing to admit one's own mistake and continue thinking that one is right, the other is wrong. Over a period of time, even thought the anger might have disappeared, both parties will not be as close, due to misgivings to each other.

But, if not for the Cold War, they might have continued arguing and not only will the anger disspitate, it will soon be boiling. They will then be enemies, with not even a word to say to each other.

Behind each other's back, they might be cursing and swearing. With the Cold War, there wouldn't be any real enmity, they would just be normal acquaintance. Thefore, cold war might not be a bad thing, at least both parties won't be enemies.

So is Cold War good or bad? You decide.

Signing off,

Namefulless

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Zechariah 4:6

Then he answered and spake unto me, saying,

This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying,

Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit,

saith the LORD of hosts.

Thank God for everything. :D

Today, the topic will be on "feel". It's a very important aspect regarding decision making. Many a times, people do things based on the "feel"; there is no real explanation behind what he or she is doing, he/she just feels like doing it. This can range of the "feel" or "chemistry", between two people's relationship in those television dramas, or like one having the "feel", such that he or she doesn't feel like talking, and remains offline in MSN. 
 
There's this person right, who has weird feelings. He/She cannot stand "..." or "dotz" etc. Again, it's the feel, and there is no reasonable explanation.
 
For me, the "feel" affects me in many ways. For example, I don't think it's right to leave any food behind on the plate. I don't know why so, it's just the mighty "feel". I don't think it's because me not wanting to waste food, because I don't understand the hard work of growing that food. If you remember, or know, about that chines poem about saving rice. I don't really have any opinion about it, just that one shouldn't waste food. It also cannot be due to the wives old tales, that your spouse will have pimples next time when you grow up; if you leave a lot of rice grains at your bowl or plate, because there's no way I believe it!
 
Another thing is bowing to teachers. I don't really think that there's any point doing it, I don't really feel for the teacher, that I should bow. I think it's all because the principal or teacher once said that one should bow to teachers to show respect. But the point is, there isn't any respect, just a superior and subordinate relationship. So, it's just the unexplainable "feel", that caused me to do things.
 
This is the mighty "feel", that causes one to make decisions, be it rational or irrational, without any reasonable explanation.
 
So what controls decision making?
Of course, it is the brain. But where?
According to online sources, it's the Frontal lobe. It regulates decision making, and has the ability to recognise consequences resulting from current actions, to choose between good and bad actions (or better and best).

 
How do people make decisions?
1)Looks Right People make decisions based upon how they see a picture in their minds of how it literally looks right. They like examples or graphs, etc. Show them pictures, paint them a mental picture with words. They trust what they can see.
 
2)Sounds Right People do things because they hear a series of words which sounds right to them. They like to hear about things. Tell them about your product, pay attention to your voice intonation to ensure it shows confidence and sincerity.
 
3)Feels Right People makes decisions best by letting them try the product out so they can get a good feeling about it. They literally feel a sensation in their body that feels right.
 
4)Makes Sense People need reasons for what you want them to do that makes sense. Give them facts, data and reasons. Answer the 'why' for them. They use information in a way that produces a feeling that 'makes sense' to them.
 
Credits: http://www.smallbusinesstransitions.com/how-do-people-make-decisions/92/
 
That's all for what I have to write. :D
 
Signing off,
Namefulless
 

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